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In this section ... you will find information about where to find or offer various types of help and resources for those facing pregnancy or abortion-related issues. You'll also find encouragement from someone who's been there, apologies from someone who regrets selling abortions to women, expert tips on how to find the right kind of help for you, what to expect and what you can hope for. You'll also find other links, downloadable resources and more.

 

 

At a Glance -- Available Resources to Find or Offer Help


The resources listed below may be helpful if you need help, want to help someone else, want to be ready to help in the future or simply want to be better educated about how to help or find help. Many women of all ages and from all walks of life are being pressured or counseled -- often during a window of vulnerability -- with deceptive, false or agenda- and profit-driven businesses or professionals -- often those in positions of authority, influence or power.

 

Further below this listing, you'll find a compassionate message from someone who's been there, including helpful tips from Leslie Graves. She also discusses what to expect on the healing journey and how to find the right kind of help for you and your unique situation and needs.

 

 

Help & Healing Booklet

 

How to Help Others - Booklet

 

Resource List For Pregnancy or Post-Abortion Help (pdf)
(Includes help for those being coerced/forced & post-abortion help for women, men and families.)


Pregnancy Help Page

 

Center Against Forced Abortion
(Help and resources for teens or any woman being coerced or forced into an unwanted abortion, including resources to educate/deter parents or others trying to force an abortion about potential legal ramifications.)
 

Off-Site Video -- Free Help if You're Being Forced to Abort

 

"I am sorry to the women I coerced into abortion. 
I am sorry to every woman who has ever had an abortion
..."
A heartfelt message from Abby Johnson

 

 

Whatever your situation, help is available. Whether you are pregnant and need help, or if someone is pressuring or forcing you to abort or you need help after abortion, please know that there are people and places willing to lend a helping hand. Review the information and links below to learn more or narrow your search.

 

If you've had or been involved in abortion, you'll find information and resources for help after abortion. It is a long journey full of ups and downs and heartbreak for those hurt by abortion and their loved ones; but you are not alone! Many others have experienced abortion and pregnancy-related injustices, harm and heartbreak. Many others care about you. Hope, help and healing are possible. Please stay the course and persevere until you find the kind of help that works for you.
 

For immediate help, anytime:
 

 

1) HELP IF BEING COERCED OR FORCED INTO AN UNWANTED ABORTION
Justice Foundation txjf.org
Center Against Forced Abortion

 

 

2) POST-ABORTION HELP*

 

Abortion Recovery International

CARE Directory

1-866-4-My-Recovery

 

Rachel's Vineyard Ministries
1-877-HOPE-4-ME (1-877-467-3463)

www.rachelsvineyard.org

 

National Helpline for Abortion Recovery

1-866-482-LIFE (1-866-482-5433)

www.nationalhelpline.org

 

 

3) PREGNANCY HELP

 

Option Line*
1-800-712-HELP (1-800-712-4357)
www.optionline.org

 

* also offers help after abortion.

 

Note: The pregnancy and post-abortion help organizations listed above are national groups that provide 24-hour hotlines for those seeking help. More resources are listed below and on our pregnancy help page.

 

The services offered by help/healing groups are confidential and, in many cases, free. Inclusion in this list should not be taken as an endorsement of any group's programs or philosophy.

 

4) COMMUNITY & MORE

 

Post-Abortion Healing Blog (Rachel's Vineyard)


More Help & Healing Organizations, Resources and Links listed below

 

 

You are not alone: a message from someone who’s been there

 

If you are in emotional or spiritual pain after abortion, there are resources and options available to you in your journey to renewed emotional and spiritual well-being.

You are not alone in what you have been feeling, and you don’t need to be alone and isolated as you recover. As you reach out for assistance, you will discover a community of compassionate, experienced men and women who will be able to offer skillful and significant help.

My prayers and encouragement are with you as you walk on this path of recovery. Others, including me, have walked it before you. We know that what once seemed impossible peace, forgiveness, restoration to a sense of wholeness, is indeed possible. However deep your trauma and your sense of pain and emotional turmoil, I encourage you to look forward to recovery with renewed hope and confidence. Leslie Graves

 

There is hope: finding the right people and resources for you.

 

If you are suffering after abortion, you may feel very alone. You may have experienced abortion many years ago and never told anyone. You may be struggling with a more recent abortion. You may have been denied the choice you wanted or the support you needed. Women's experiences vary widely. For some, it was a decision they made and later came to regret; for most, it involved some form of coercion. For still others, it was forced by those in positions of authority or power. Regardless of individual circumstances, healing is possible.

      

As you investigate the resources listed here, keep in mind that not every program is a good fit for every person. Please keep trying until you find a person or group where you are truly safe, comfortable and welcome. Bear in mind that any time you reflect back on a painful time in your life, you will most likely feel worse before you feel better, because you will be thinking and feeling more on a daily basis about what happened. That’s normal, and it’s one reason why support is so helpful on your journey.

 

However, some people may try a particular resource, and continue to be in a lot of pain, experience flashbacks and intrusive thoughts, or have behaviors that they dislike and want to stop but which are continuing. If that happens, you may be tempted to say, “It must be me, and I can never expect to truly experience peace and joy again. Because of what happened, I will always have to struggle with destructive thoughts and unhealthy behaviors.”  Don't give up!

 

Please keep trying! 

Many, many people have experienced complete healing of their post-abortion symptoms through one of these programs. You might want to read
What does recovery feel like? if you are wondering whether more healing and recovery might be possible for you.

 

Types of programs
Many options are available

 

When seeking support and healing for post-abortion trauma, one basic choice is between group support or one-on-one counseling.

 

If you're not sure whether a group setting or an individual setting is a better fit for you at this time, go to Is group support the right choice? for a collection of comments about that, and to Is one-on-one counseling for you? for comments about that.

 

Another choice is between in-person support (attending a weekend retreat, working with a therapist, a clergyperson or a peer counselor, or going to a weekly group) or online support (online chats, internet message boards, e-mail groups). Several organizations offer a combination of email or internet-based group support and in-person support.

 

See In-person or online support? for reflections on these options.

 

Another choice is between programs with a spiritual component and those without. Spiritual beliefs are personal and are often tied-in with how we look at abortion in general and our own experience with abortion in particular. It is not uncommon to feel that we are unacceptable to God if we have had an abortion, or to feel that abortion is "the unforgivable sin." That pain is indeed hard to bear, and it is one reason that many, but not all, post-abortion groups have a spiritual basis. I indicate information about that with each listing.

 

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Basic expectations when seeking counseling
What you have a right to expect from a therapist or group 

 

1. Confidentiality. Your confidentiality and privacy should be strictly respected at all times, unless you are threatening harm to yourself or others. Also, no one should share the details of your story--even if no one would recognize that it is about you--with others without your explicit permission.

 

2. No pressure to "tell your story." Because of wanting to reach out to those who still suffer, many people who have experienced post-abortion trauma do share their story with friends or in public. This is a very personal decision, with many, many factors that you will need to consider. If you indicate an interest in raising awareness through sharing your story, a good support group will encourage you to carefully discern what is truly best for you, and to take plenty of time in making this decision.

 

3. Prompt response. If you e-mail an organization, you should expect a response within 48 hours. If you call a hotline or therapist and get voicemail, you should get detailed information about when you can speak to someone in person. If you leave a message, you should get a call back within 48 hours.

 

4. No political component. The program should not include any political component at all. Because pro-life organizations such as the Catholic Church were inclined to believe that post-abortion syndrome exists, pro-life groups were and are very important in supporting post-abortion research and healing. By contrast, some pro-choice activists can feel threatened by the idea that abortion can hurt a woman emotionally or spiritually, and react in damaging and defensive ways to your pain. Bottom line: You may find help from a source you did not expect, but you should probably steer clear of any therapist, clergyperson or healing program that in any way will use or minimize your pain or vulnerability or tells you that you have to be pro-life or pro-choice to receive help or to heal.

 

5. Respect and professionalism. The program and the individuals involved with it should be nonjudgmental, respectful, and knowledgeable.

 

6.  Avoid "quick fixes" and "spiritual band-aids." See this article for more information: www.nacronline.com/dox/library/daler/quick.shtml
 

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Be wise when seeking wisdom
Advice from experts in post-abortion healing

 

Some words to the wise from Theresa Burke, PhD, founder of Rachel's Vineyard and co-author with David Reardon of Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion:

 

Post-abortion healing is a specialty unto itself. The average psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker or counselor of any other academic stripe who does not understand post-abortion issues can often inflict more harm than good on the unsuspecting woman. Many may believe they have enough insight to help, but unless they have had additional training, they often don't. Certainly, if your thoughts and feelings become so overwhelming that you feel you can no longer cope, seek professional assistance immediately. But generally, I encourage you to take the time to find one of the growing number of professional therapists and experienced lay counselors who have received special training in post-abortion healing.

 

Here is a longer excerpt from the book Forbidden Grief that is another word to the wise as you think about seeking help with any post-abortion issues you may be experiencing:

 

The interaction between therapists and women who have experienced abortion is obstructed by unspoken secrets, fears and political biases. It should be no surprise that because of their own psychological needs, many counselors simply don't want to delve into the subject of abortion. If they do, some prefer to quickly reassure clients that they did the best thing and thereby close off any further expressions of grief. This occurs because many counselors have neglected to identify their own fears and anxieties that might be aroused by such conversations.

 

Many therapists have been involved in an abortion themselves. Others have encouraged clients to abort or have given their therapeutic 'blessing' to the abortion option for clients considering abortion. This is often done out of ignorance of the research that shows that women with prior psychological problems fare poorly after abortion...While some therapists may simply be ignorant of these undisputed findings, others simply ignore or disbelieve them for their own psychological or political reasons.

 

Once a counselor has encouraged or approved of an abortion for Patient A, he may become 'invested' in defending abortion. If he subsequently allows Patient B to delve into her post-abortion grief and associated pathologies, then the counselor may be forced to question his advice to Patient A. He may be instinctively wary of witnessing an intense post-abortion reaction because it may provoke his own sense of guilt in having given Patient A bad advice.

 

Julianne described her experience with her therapist this way:  

 

After my abortion, I could not stop crying. I went to see the therapist who had encouraged me to have the abortion. I cried the whole time there. She sat across from me with a blank look on her face. She said nothing. During this session she was removed and distant-emotionally cold and withdrawn.

 

As I was leaving her office, she came up to me and said, "I don't usually touch my patients, but you look like you need a hug." She then proceeded to embrace my shoulders and offer a squeeze. I felt like I was being embraced by an evil presence. I shuddered at her touch. How dare she even come near me!  A hug!  I was sickened at the thought of such a trite expression-after having encouraged me to kill my own child!

Never a word of support for my motherhood!  Not an alternative plan, or a resource to help me. She knew I didn't want another abortion. She told me to have a ------ abortion because I would not be able to handle another baby.

 

Then she offered me a hug!

 

God, I miss my baby. That's who I wanted to hug...my baby who is gone, whom I will never hold or cuddle.

 

If the therapist has personally had an abortion, a client's confession of grief is quite likely to run into either a wall of denial or another quagmire of unsettled issues.

 

According to another of my clients, Hanna:

 

I thought I had put my own experiences behind me. I was totally unprepared for the onset of emotions evoked by hearing one of my clients talk about her abortion. There are times when I feel as though I have opened a Pandora's box and my life will never be normal again. Memories I did not know existed have been surfacing at the most inopportune times. My sleeping hours are plagued by graphic nightmares. I vacillate between feeling in control and fully out of control. As a professional counselor, I struggle to find a bridge that will allow me to merge my professional expertise with my personal trauma. "Physician, heal thyself!" I do know that the time to reconcile this is now and that it is no accident. I have arrived at this particular fork in the road.

 

Fortunately, Hanna recognized her own symptoms that screamed for attention and decided to seek help. She was willing to deal with the trauma that she had for many years successfully pushed away but had never truly worked through.

 

(The above excerpt is from pages 60-61 of Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion, by Theresa Burke, Ph.D with David Reardon, Ph.D.) 

 

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Is group support right for you?
Some things to consider
 

 

"Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it."  -Helen Keller

 

"Mutual help groups are a powerful and constructive means for people to help themselves and each other. The basic dignity of each human being is expressed in his or her capacity to be involved in a reciprocal helping exchange. Out of this compassion comes cooperation. From this cooperation comes community." - Phyllis Silverman, PhD, Dept of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, from Introduction to the Self-Help Sourcebook, 1995, p. 24

 

Research indicates that self-help groups can have a powerfully positive impact on us. In post-abortion healing, this would be found at a weekend retreat, a weekly bible study or recovery group, in a structured online group or in a more free-wheeling e-group.

 

Yet, entering into a group can be scary. Imagine going to a first meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous and saying for the first time outside the privacy of your own mind, "I am an alcoholic."  Or even just going to the first practice of a sports team at your new high school, or any other new group setting.

 

It's common to have many anxieties and fears about attending a weekend retreat or group support meetings. "Will my confidentiality truly be respected?"  "Even if people didn't say anything harsh, will I witness fleeting facial expressions of condemnation and judgment, and experience even more shame?"  "What if I start crying and can't stop?"  "Will I be the only one there with multiple abortions?"  The people who coordinate your particular support group probably experienced the very same fears at one point, and will be able to talk about them with you.

 

Besides abortion, you may have had other experiences in your life that cause you to experience other people as damaging and untrustworthy.  Meeting others in groups is a chance to experience people who are safe and trustworthy. If you have had bad experiences with people, it can feel risky. The rewards can be as great as the risk.

 

Click here http://mentalhelp.net/selfhelp/selfhelp.php?id=865  for a website with many quotes about the advantages of mutual self-help groups. 

 

Jilly, who offers online support through her own PASS website, wrote this about the value of group support:

 

I run one every three months, and it is a 'private' board on the message board system, so the group meeting for the experience has a private board and private chat room. It seems that of the women who start, usually about 30 percent end up dropping out...either they find they aren't ready for it yet, or real life things come round and take up their spare time and they don't have the time to do it—;but for those who stay in, it seems to be a very binding and healing experience. The women who do the group tend to 'stick together' on the main boards afterwards, and end up becoming 'phone friends' and even get together in real life now and then.. It seems to be a very good way for women to start healing.

 

Theresa Burke of Rachel's Vineyard (www.rachelsvineyard.org) shares her thoughts on the value of a group support experience in Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion:

 

The profound healing that Michelle experienced was new to her, but not to me. I have been privileged to witness literally thousands of such transforming moments, when the labor of grief ends in the birth of a new, restored woman. It as though an emotional key turns, simultaneously releasing all the muck and grime and weight of past abortions while opening a door to a fresh new future...Tears of sorrow are mixed with tears of joy as women and men experience their first taste of freedom after years of cruel bondage.

 

But such healing can only happen when the isolation and secrecy are dismantled, and one's story is revealed to others who do not seek to judge or condemn. Only then is it finally possible, with the support of a small community of others who compassionately affirm the loss and respect the grief, to grieve one's losses to their fullness. The importance of social support to the grief process reflects an important aspect of our human nature. Though we are individuals, we are inescapably social beings. The lack of social support will degrade or destroy our well-being. Conversely, the experience of social support, in even a single relationship, can strengthen our well-being.

 

For most of us, it is only when we have the support of others who will not judge or condemn us that we feel safe from social rejection. This support makes it easier for us to confront and explore the deepest part of our souls. With it, one learns how to accept forgiveness from God and one's aborted child. With it, one learns how to extend forgiveness to oneself and others. And with it, one discovers how the most difficult, soul-breaking experiences imaginable can be used as the foundation for building a richer, deeper, and more meaningful existence.

 

From p. 246 of Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion

 
Is one-on-one help the best option for you? Things to consider.

It is so unequivocal. Straightforward. Obvious. The answer is not a complicated one at all. What is the question? Why would any one get help? Why would anyone choose to go to a recovery group meeting? If only your spouse knows about it, why go to group? Why would a normal person like me call a therapist? Why would a successful pastor see a counselor? Why get help?

The answer? I have a need. . . so I go get help. It is so simple isn’t it? Yes, it is simple. Then riddle me this: why do we resist getting help so intensely? Why did I oppose it for so long?

 

One-on-one support and therapy as you begin to heal from post-abortion trauma could come in several forms. You could seek help:

  • from a mental health professional (a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, social worker, or other mental health clinician).

  • from a clergyperson

  • from a peer-counselor who will most likely use a recovery approach such as "Forgiven and Set Free",  "My Guilt, Grief and Shame are Ending Soon," the PACE program or "Her Choice to Heal", and meet with you one-on-one for a period of weeks at a time convenient to both of you. (Generally, these sessions will be free or have a very low cost.)

  • Individual email counseling through a number of different online sites that offer it.

Advantages of one-on-one counseling include:

  • Flexible scheduling

  • Ability to tailor sessions to your particular issues

  • Privacy
     

Here is an excerpt from a comment made by someone who participated in one-on-one sessions with a peer counselor from Victims of Choice:  

 

My 10 counseling sessions have ended with my lay counselor from Victims Of Choice (VOC), and I wanted to write and thank you for this life changing experience.

I learned of the VOC Ministry when you led a workshop at our church. I attended it because I was curious about a ministry dealing with men and women who have had abortions. Although I considered myself a committed Christian and had known the Lord for 15 years, I evaded the issue with Him that I too had had an abortion 25 years ago. I knew abortion was wrong and for years I had conditioned myself not to think about it. I told no one about my abortion - struggling to stay in denial even to myself.

 

The abortion experience itself is very traumatic for a woman to endure. I learned that years of sleepless nights and other phobias were directly related to my abortion. My low self-esteem was mostly due to the tremendous guilt...hidden deep in my heart so no one could see what an awful thing I had done.

But our wonderful God loved me too much to allow me to be in bondage to this buried sin. I clung to Isaiah 50:7 that says the Lord God will help us. I would set my face like a flint and ask Him to help me get over being so ashamed.

 

After the workshop, I contacted VOC and made an appointment with a lay counselor. I really appreciated the discreet way in which I was treated. This very special person helped me to feel God's cleansing, healing and forgiving love!”

 

Here is a weblink that offers advice on finding a compatible therapist:
www.nacronline.com/dox/gethelp/therapy.shtmll 

 

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In-person or online support?

 

In-person support for post-abortion healing would either be on a weekend retreat, one-on-one counseling with a therapist, clergyperson or lay facilitator, or a weekly support group.

On-line support would be through a message board, e-group, online recovery group, scheduled or spontaneous online chats, or email.

 

If you're reading this, you're already experiencing one of the many benefits of the internet:   Quick, fast, information on a targeted subject of interest to you, entirely at your own convenience, and with complete anonymity.

 

Ever since the Internet came along, people have wondered how "the online experience" stacks up against face-to-face experiences. Therapists wonder whether online therapy can be effective, Catholics wonder what it means to pray before the  Blessed Sacrament that is displayed on a webpage, young lovers wonder if it is "real" love if you only know the person online.

 

I would guess that for most people, as they journey toward healing, face-to-face contact will end up being very important at some point. Online support, however, has great strengths. For most people, it is not an either/or choice (either in-person or online support) but a both/and choice (both in-person and online support).

 

Jilly from the PASS website notes that participants on those message boards have shared these perspectives on the online experience:

  • Convenience - the ease of being able to 'communicate' and discuss this on their computer, in the privacy of their own home, at times that are convenient for them.

  • Privacy - the anonymity of using a computer and not having to talk face to face right away about what was and is for some a totally upsetting and incredibly painful issue.

  • Safety - they like not having to use their real name, and be private.

  • Ease – Also for many women it is easier to type things then to write them, especially when it comes to this issue!

 

I think there's still much to be gained from an in-person hug, and an in-person group, but if there isn't one in a woman's area, or she is not ready for the step of going out into 'public' with this, an online group is invaluable!  My online groups have had women from the US, Canada, Mexico, Australia, England,  Ireland, Sweden, Italy, Soviet Georgia, France and Germany in them - this just wouldn't be possible with an in-person group!
 

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What does recovery feel like?
You will reach a turning point

 

Almost anyone who has had a lot of recovery and healing from traumatic experiences and loss will tell you that you never stop healing this side of Heaven. Yet, for many people a turning point comes when they can say, "I am not in that black hole any longer."    It's like falling in love...when it happens, you'll know.

 

Please keep trying!
Until you find a compassionate therapist or program that works for you 

 

If you have tried a particular therapist or support group, and you still regularly experience one or more of these symptoms in relation to abortion:

  • Flashbacks or nightmares 

  • Compulsive thoughts and feelings that started after the abortion

  • Suicidal thoughts or feelings

  • Depression or anxiety

  • Lack of attachment to your children

  • Self-hatred

  • Shame

  • Social isolation

  • Relationship difficulties

  • Compulsive or addictive behaviors that started after abortion

 

Then I would urge you to try a different program or therapist. As they say in 12-step programs, "You're not a failure until you fail to try."  Here's a link to a good article on reaching out for help: http://www.nacronline.com/dox/library/dalew/dw_help.shtml

 

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Organizations, resources, and links: other places to find help, information and healing

 

Disclaimer: Neither I nor the Elliot Institute certify or endorse the programs or groups listed here. I encourage you to read my views on the Basic, Minimum Standards a therapist or post-abortion group should meet.

 

Use your best judgment and discretion as you investigate these links. If you are experiencing shame or guilt because of abortion, and have a negative experience with a particular group, you may believe that is what you deserve. It isn't. What you deserve is respect, a nonjudgmental attitude, and effective assistance as you heal. If one person or organization isn't right for you, another one will be.

 

Abortion Recovery Network
National toll-free hotline at 1-866-4-MY-RECOVERY (1-866-469-7326)

 

A network of ministries that provides information and counseling for those suffering after abortion. Their web site helps locate post-abortion ministries both in the U.S. and internationally. Also provides help to men, family members, medical personnel and those in prison who have been affected by abortion.

 

Lumina: Hope and Healing After Abortion

National toll-free hotline at 1-877-586-4621 or email lumina@postabortionhelp.org

 

A post-abortion referral network that offers group programs, retreats for women and men, referrals to professional therapists, post-abortion ministries, and clergy members trained in post abortion stress. A network of women and men who have walked through the pain of abortion are also ready to accompany you through the darkness, into the joy of a renewed life. 

 

Rachel's Vineyard Ministries
National toll-free hotline at 1-877-HOPE-4-ME (1-877-467-3463)

 

Rachel's Vineyard weekends for healing after abortion are offered throughout the year in locations across the United States and Canada, with additional sites around the world. The program is an opportunity to examine your abortion experience, identify the ways that the loss has impacted you in the past and present, and helps to acknowledge any unresolved feelings that many individuals struggle with after abortion. Married couples, mothers, fathers, grandparents and siblings of aborted children, as well as persons who have been involved in the abortion industry have come to Rachel's Vineyard in search of peace and inner healing. 


 

Ramah International
Sydna Masse, Director; phone (941) 473-2188.

 

This Christian group supports post-ab ortion ministry through training programs, resources, research and promoting awareness of post-abortion issues. Director Sydna Masse is the author of the recovery book, "Her Choice to Heal". Sydna has also created a leader's guide so that "Her Choice to Heal" can be used as the basis for in-person weekly recovery groups.

 

Ramah International has a newsletter, various additional resources, and can be used as a point of referral to weekly recovery groups around the country. You can also find e-mail support through the Ramah website. 

 

The National Office of Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing (NOPARH) /
Project Rachel

National toll-free hotline at 1-800-5WE-CARE.

 

Project Rachel is a post-abortion outreach of the Catholic Church, while NOPARH is intended as a non-denominational referral source for post-abortion help. Project Rachel was founded in 1984 by Vicki Thorn, who is the director of NOPARH. 

 

NOPARH has hosted several international conferences on post-abortion reconciliation and Vicki Thorn offers one-day trainings. Catholic dioceses that have their own Project Rachel can also be a source for local referrals.  By calling the national office at 1-800-5WE-CARE, you will generally be referred to the local Project Rachel office nearest to you. That office can then refer you to helpful and trained clergy, therapists, retreats and support groups.

 

 

Local Pregnancy Center Based Support Groups

 

Some Pregnancy Resource Centers (PRCs) and Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) host post-abortion support groups. These groups typically meet weekly for a period of anywhere from 8 to 16 weeks, and use a variety of recovery guides, including "Forgiven and Set Free", "Her Choice to Heal", PACE (Post-Abortion Counseling and Education), the Rachel's Vineyard weekly support model, or the "My Guilt, Grief and Shame are Ending Soon" program.

 

To find out if there is a PRC or CPC offering post-abortion help in your area, check with the following groups:

 

Option Line
1-800-712-HELP (4357)
www.optionline.org

 

Healing After

www.healingafter.com

 

 

Canadian Organizations Offering Post-Abortion Counseling

 

Canadian Association of Pregnancy Support Services

1-866-845-2151 (MST)

 

Project Rachel Affiliates in Canada
Provides support with trained clergy and counselors, retreats and support groups.

 

Rachel's Vineyard Ministries

Rachel's Vineyard weekends for healing after abortion are offered throughout the year in locations across the United States and Canada, with additional sites around the world. Retreats are open to married couples, mothers, fathers, grandparents and siblings of aborted children, as well as persons who have been involved in the abortion industry. 
 

 

Groups Offering Online Support

 

Abortion Changes You

A website giving women, men, family members and others involved in abortion a safe place to share their experiences in a confidential and neutral environment. Includes articles, information and resources on coping with abortion and resolving the experience, along with links to local support and counseling groups.

 

Rachel’s Vineyard
Rachel’s Vineyard has numerous volunteers who can answer any questions you may have through confidential e-mail. Some have experienced abortion and healing, others are counselors trained in post-abortion healing or women who run retreat teams.

 

Kala's Group

An online community with an intimate feel. Kala's Group hosts message boards, and scheduled chats. It also has a memorials page.

 

Lifecall: Getting the Help You Need

Informative webpage by Teri Reisser, author of "A Solitary Sorrow," a self-help book and Bible study for healing after abortion. This page includes streaming audio presentations.

 

Independent Email Support Groups at Yahoo Groups

In addition to e-groups sponsored through some of the sites listed above, there are a number of independent post-abortion e-groups, most of just people wanting to offer support to each other. It is free and easy to create an e-group through Yahoo Groups. Anyone with an email address can do it. Here's a link that takes you to the Yahoo index for these groups. Note that we have not vetted any of these groups, so you will need to check them out to see if they are helpful.

 

 

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